Defender

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Unleash Your Potential as a Defender Parent

Learn what defines this parenting strength, what motivates your parenting, how to gain energy, areas to contribute your best, and what to avoid to reduce struggles in parenting.

Description

Defend and treat everyone equally as each one’s rights are equally important. Help kids live true to justice and equality

Motivators

Fairness & Justice

Energizers

Everyone Is Equal, Help the Outsider or Disadvantaged, Bring Peace and Harmony

Contributions

Right Wrongs, Stand for Right Action, Include Everyone, Equal Opportunity

Struggles

Knowing When & When Not To Fight, Over-Emphasizing Rules, Easily Offended

Use Your Defender Strength to Meet Your Child's Basic Needs

Learn how to use this parenting strength to show love, build trust, give hope, establish structure, and bring correction for bringing out the best in your child.

Show Love

Share strong beliefs for equality for all
Protect child against injustice
Advocate for child in all circumstances

Build Trust

Be fair and defend kids when mistreated
Provide safe space for kids to express who they are as they grow to learn

Give Hope

Lead the charge to show love and equal acceptance for all
Paint a picture of a world with equality
Promise to always have kid’s back

Establish Structure

Explain rules and expectations
Hold children accountable to play by the rules
Co-create specific boundaries w/ child

Bring Correction

Apply discipline with fairness
Share how actions negatively impact others
Reinforce what is right, fair and just

Use These Strategies Today to Feel Confident and Truly Make a Difference in Your Family

Strategies

Create safe places to play fairly and inclusively; be a peacemaker
Teach child to notice when others are excluded, bullied, or manipulated
Coach self-advocacy with appropriate ways to be counted and heard
Discuss importance of, set rules for, and reward fairness, justice, equality

Find the Best of You

While there are common ways that parents use their Defender strength, how you use this strength to the full extent is unique to you when combined with your other parenting strengths.

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